Okay- so I don’t think it is a matter of who wins- we both should. But in this case- did either of us win?
Today was filled with interesting circumstances for which I am so grateful to learn from. Perhaps you can fill me in with some insights to help me think clearly.
Facts. Took van in to get a quote for repairs. Spent several (very fun) hours with twins at the park while we wait. Temperature today: 105. The shade felt very good and am even more grateful for air conditioning… okay- so I’ve added a tint of positive to that remark 😉
Fact. When we return to pick up the van they didn’t do the quote. They checked my parking brake and told me it worked fine. I should bring the van back another day to have it inspected.
Fact. I leave in my van to go home. A few miles down the road I look back to see smoke. I drive back to mechanics.
Fact. I told them before I left that the parking break had issues with not disengaging
Feeling… I don’t think these men are listening to anything I am saying.
Fact. 300 pound man verbally rips into me for driving around an unsafe vehicle for about 3-5 minutes.
Fact. I stand up taller, more confident, and tell him he is right. It is absolutely unsafe and I will not be driving the vehicle again until they have fixed it. He does not need to continue berating me. I get the point. (feeling… as if i didn’t already know this… I’ve been keeping an unbelievably great pma about my vehicle situation but just about now if I’m not careful i’ll break down into tears… no-i’m stronger than that. I hold my ground.) (feeling… if I were my husband’s 6 foot 4″ would I be spoken to this way? Even on the same issue?)
Fact. Our other vehicle in for repairs was finished being worked on though we have only paid for half. They reluctantly let me take the pickup. Fact. I buckle both carseats in. Fact. I drive home using 1st, 3rd, and 5th gears because carseats are in my way. Can I laugh now! This story is just too funny! I arrive home, frazzled and safe.
Help- any insights. I know I must have some underlying issues because I can feel it – I just don’t know what they are. I feel like maybe I should have handled it differently and would like to know how. What principles apply if any? Clarity anyone?
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